6 tips to pep up your sex life in a long-term relationship

6 tips to pep up your sex life in a long-term relationship

1.       If it’s boring - spice it up

Change where you have sex: get off the bed and on to the kitchen table. Change the time you have sex: don’t always do it when it’s dark, have sex in the daylight. Change your position; if your partner’s always been a missionary man, make it your chance to be on top

"If you always make love in the bedroom, try another room in the house. If you are already using different rooms in the house, try to find somewhere secluded in your garden (and avoid full moons as they light up everything!)"

2.        Too tired and no time - make time

Don’t be the couple who only ever go out and have sex on birthdays and anniversaries."

"All relationships plateau but you need to re-engage with one another and have a proper conversation."Do something together which isn’t an obvious precursor to sex.  For some couples who may have not been intimate for a while the dinner and a movie thing may seem like foreplay before the inevitable sex! Instead go on a bike ride together, have afternoon tea in a local cafe, just reconnect with each other

3.       We don’t communicate - talk to each other

"The way you feel about each other will subtly change and you will be much more intimate with each other both in and out of the bedroom."

4.       Bad body image - focus on your partner

Maybe focus on your partner’s body instead of your own or turn the lights down low if it helps you relax more.

5.       Sex hurts- get help

If men are having a problem maintaining an erection, they can go and see their GP. There are medications available

6.       You're still not up for it- other triggers that put you off sex

Make sure you are getting enough sleep.No matter what the reason is for your diminished desire, getting back on track with your partner sexually may take some effort, but you could be pleased with the results!