A lot goes on when two people kiss. If it's a romantic kiss,
you've probably gazed at each other and imagined getting closer. When your lips
touch, you cross into a zone of intimate touch and smell. You literally breathe
each other in.
A kiss can determine if physical attraction will spark or
fizzle. "The kiss is the thing early in a relationship,".
When a kiss is right, it's magic. But a kiss that goes wrong
is the stuff of tragedy. In this article, I reveals the secrets behind a good
kiss, and how you can become a better kisser.
1st Secret to
Kissing: Pay Attention to Your Partner
"Kissing is almost like dancing with your lips," Kissing
styles range from closed-mouth pecks on the cheek to passionate French kisses.
"You need to read your partner and figure out what style of kiss they're
interested in’’.
You can be a better kisser with attention and practice,
No matter what your level of skill and experience, kissing
is not like riding a bike. Good kissers do not kiss by rote. Your ability to
immerse yourself fully in a kiss plays a big part in whether your lips remain
engaged or get shut out in the cold.
2nd Secret to
Kissing: Start Out Slow
Start with a soft mouth when you first kiss your partner's
lips. "You could have your lips overlapping and kind of nibble a little,
maybe pull the lower lip out gently,. "Some people like a little bit of
teeth pulling on their lip and some people don't like it at all."
To graduate from technical skill to artistry, pay attention
to your partner's sounds and body language. Some people like to have their
faces touched, others don't. Some people like to be held very tight, others
feel smothered. If the kissing progresses, it may naturally become wetter and
sloppier as both of you get more aroused
Women vs. Men: What
You Want From a Kiss
This difference plays out around the globe., India, has seen
a sharp rise in couples seeking relationship advice in the past decade. As
women in that country have become more independent and vocal in their
relationships, kissing has risen in status.
"Traditionally, physical tenderness between couples was
an alien concept,". "But women crave tenderness. They want their
husbands to kiss and cuddle with them to show they care about more than just
having sex."
Plan for a Lifetime
of Kisses
Attitudes toward kissing can change with time. Today, men
and women both value cuddling. A survey of men between 40 and 70 years old
found that those who kissed and cuddled with their wives or girlfriends were
happier in their relationships. Likewise, women who said they kissed and
cuddled with their partners reported being more sexually satisfied than women
who kept their hands to themselves.
Are you missing out? Nicholson suggests couples make time
for a variety of kisses -- kissing for closeness and kissing for sex. This
means a lot of kissing, and that's a good thing. Kissing reduces stress
hormones and strengthens relationships. "When I evaluate couples, the happier
couples spend a lot more time kissing and cuddling,"
If you are in a long-term relationship, you may need to
remind yourself to stop and kiss your partner.
Don't Let Bad Breath
Dampen Your Romance
Ask a woman how well you kiss, and it's likely your breath
will play a large part in her answer. Bad breath, unhealthy looking teeth, or a
foul-tasting mouth reduces your kiss-ability.
The state of your mouth shows your partner how well you take
care of yourself. Bad breath can signal sloppy hygiene, bad health, and poor
long-term prospects. And while men and women both consider a clean mouth
important, women seem more sensitive to the taste and smell of their partner's
mouth.
And Don't Forget to Have Fun
Most important, have fun when you kiss. "Kissing is too
important to be taken seriously,". Whether you're in a long-term
relationship or meeting someone new, your lips can take you to new places when
you make time for a good kiss.
