If stress is starting
to run you ragged, take heart. There are some easy ways to keep it from
overtaking your day.
No. 1: Breathe
Deeply
This simple strategy
is a powerful stress fighter. It helps you:
·Lower stress hormones
·Lower your heart rate
·Bring down your blood pressure
Here's how to do it:
1.Sit quietly with one
hand on your stomach, the other on your chest.
2.Breathe in slowly and
deeply through your nose, filling your lungs.
3.Hold your breath for
a few seconds.
4.Breathe out slowly
through your mouth until all the air is out of your lungs.
5.Repeat four more
times.
No. 2: Meditate
This ancient practice
relaxes your mind and the body.
For several minutes
each day, sit quietly and comfortably. While you do this, focus your mind on
one of these things:
·Your breathing
·An object
·A specific word or phrase (mantra)
As thoughts and
distractions intrude, gently push them away. Return to your focus.
You can do meditation
alone or with a group.
No. 3: Exercise
To get your heart rate
up with an aerobic exercise:
·Walk
·Cycle
·Swim
Just 20 minutes a day
will calm your mind and lower stress hormones.
Exercise also boosts
endorphins, brain chemicals that improve your mood. Even light exercise can
relax you, though harder workouts offer greater health rewards.
No. 4: Practice
Guided Imagery
This technique has
the same relaxation benefits of deep breathing. Here's how it works:
·Sit somewhere quiet and picture yourself in a calm and peaceful place,
such as a beach. Imagine walking through this place and taking in its sights,
sounds, and smells.
·While your imagination is working, breathe slowly and deeply.
·Keep this up until you are fully relaxed.
·Ease back slowly into the real world.
To get started, you
can search online for podcasts that will talk you through the process. Nurses,
counselors, therapists, or other professionals can also help you learn how to do
this on your own.
No. 5: Eat Well
Foods rich in vitamin
C, like oranges and grapefruits, may help lower your stress hormones. Omega-3s,
like those found in salmon and other fatty fish, as well nuts and seeds, may
also be calming.
In general, fueling
your body well with a balanced diet can help keep your body healthy and better
able to handle stress. Part of eating well means focusing on getting whole
grains, vegetables, and fruits.
Want something sweet?
Dark chocolate may have a calming effect by lowering stress hormones.
No. 6: Talk
Positively to Yourself
Being self-critical
can add to your stress. So try the opposite approach. Help yourself relax by
practicing positive self-talk.
Replace negative
thoughts with positive ones. In other words, be the little engine that could.
Tell yourself "I think I can" rather than "I know I can't."
No. 7: Sleep Well
Getting a good
night's sleep can help you fight stress the next day. Go for at least 7 hours a
night.
Try these tips if
you're having trouble:
·Try to go to bed and wake up at the same time every day -- even on the
weekends.
·Avoid caffeine after 3 p.m. and alcohol close to bedtime.
·If you take naps, do so early in the day rather than too close to
bedtime.
·Exercise regularly.
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Guarantee a better day by starting your a.m. off right with these easy
tricks
Have you ever noticed
that what happens during the morning hours often sets the tone for the rest of
the day? When things go smoothly, you tend to feel more relaxed and ready to
face whatever the day may bring. However, when things get bumpy before you’ve
even managed to get dressed, you’re more likely to remain grumpy until bedtime.
While some hassles can’t be avoided, you can make mood-enhancing decisions
during the a.m. hours that will set the stage for the next 16 or so. We spoke
with the experts and combed the latest research for 10 pick-me-ups that will
have your mood rising like the morning sun. Try one (or all!) of them for a
happier and healthier you.
1. Pick one
“spoil-me” task to do.
When you wake up, give yourself 30 seconds to think of at least one nice thing
you can do for yourself that day…and then do it. When Alice Domar, PhD,
psychologist and coauthor ofLive a Little! Breaking the Rules Won’t
Break Your Health, was in Los Angeles for a book tour one winter, she woke up much
earlier than usual. But instead of fretting about lost zzz’s, she realized with
excitement that she could score some fresh fruit at the nearby farmer’s market,
which would’ve been impossible if she were back home in Boston. That impromptu
side trip kept her mood lifted throughout the day.
2. Eat a well-balanced
meal.
Start your morning with a nutritious mix of complex carbohydrates and proteins
that will last you until lunch, such as oatmeal or toast with peanut butter
(include a sprinkle of cinnamon, which one study linked to improved mood and
alertness, for an extra boost). Other research found that a moderate amount of
caffeine (200 mg, or the amount in about two cups of coffee) elevated mood and
mental sharpness, so enjoy some joe or black tea with your breakfast.
3. Get some fresh
air.
Head out for some “green exercise”—physical activity performed in an outdoor
setting—even if you only have a few minutes to spare. Researchers found that
people experienced an enhanced mood and higher self-esteem after just five
minutes of various types of green exercise, including walking and gardening.
The study also found that exercising near water amplified the effects, so if
you live near a lake, river or waterfall, even better.
4. Listen to the
sounds of nature.
Capture the benefits of the great outdoors, even if you can’t get outside, by
listening to recorded nature sounds. In a recent study, participants recovered
from a stressful situation more quickly when they listened to a recorded
combination of running water and bird sounds. Open your window in the morning
so you can hear Mother Nature’s music as you get ready, or invest in an alarm
clock that eases you awake with nature sounds.
5. Focus on feeling good.
Right after waking up, Robyn McKay, PhD, a psychologist based in Tempe,
Arizona, and founder of the Smart Girl-Modern Goddess coaching program,
recommends taking five deep breaths and making the decision to feel good for
the day. “Imagine that, even when you encounter frustrations and surprises, you
will remember to breathe and respond mindfully—rather than react mindlessly—to
your circumstances,” she says. Dr. McKay also suggests that, throughout the
day, you “take five deep, intentional breaths and remind yourself of your
decision to feel good.”
6. Drink hot chocolate.
A recent study found that sipping a drink containing cocoa flavonols improved
participants’ moods and levels of alertness—even as they worked on a series of
challenging math problems. So go ahead and savor some hot cocoa made with
lowfat or skim milk and dark chocolate. The protein and carbs in the milk will
help keep your blood sugar levels stable until lunch, which will help you hold
on to your mood momentum.
7. Take a moment to assess
yourself.
Don’t jump out of bed right when you open your eyes in the morning. Instead,
take five minutes to pay attention to your body and notice if you feel any
stiffness, then do some light stretching while breathing deeply, suggests Lynn
Louise Wonders, LPC, RPT-S, RYT, a psychotherapist and yoga teacher in
Marietta, Georgia. She notes, “Before racing off to the hundred things on the
day's to-do list, it can be tremendously beneficial to claim these five minutes
to tune in to your body and your breath. You'll find that you are more
‘present’ and better equipped to deal with the busyness of the day ahead.”
8. Envision the negative.
You’ve probably heard that gratitude is a mood elevator, but here’s a
surprising twist to that tactic: Think about a positive event from your
life—how you got your dream job or met your ideal partner, for instance—and
then imagine what your life would be like if the event hadn’t happened. Though
it seems like this would have the opposite effect, it actually improved the
mood of one study’s participants more so than simply thinking of the positive
event itself.
9. Breathe in some mint.
Researchers found that sniffing peppermint enhanced mood and attention while
also fighting fatigue. Try keeping a bottle of peppermint essential oil or bag
of peppermint tea on your nightstand so you can inhale the positive scents
right as you wake up. Another happiness helper is chewing gum, which elevated
the moods, alertness and attention spans of another study's participants. Pop a
piece of peppermint gum after breakfast for a double-duty perk-up.
10. Smile.
There’s one thing you can do just about anywhere: Smile. “Remember,” says Dr.
McKay, “smiling is a simple way to change your mood—and the mood of those
around you, too.” So spread your good-mood wealth by baring those pearly whites
as often as possible in the morning as well as throughout the day.
12 Tips to Avoid Daytime Sleepiness
Not
surprisingly, the problem of daytime sleepiness usually starts at night. Even
missing just a few nights’ sleep, or not getting enough uninterrupted sleep,
can slow you down and sour your mood.
If you or someone close to you is
not sleeping well because of snoring, a visit to the doctor may be helpful. A
doctor's visit may be particularly important if you are: Falling asleep during
normal waking hours Becoming irritable Losing concentration Becoming depressed
When you call to make an appointment, let them know that you want to talk to
the doctor about your snoring problem so that they can schedule the correct
amount of time for the evaluation. Learn more about snoring...
Poor sleep habits are often the cause of daytime sleepiness.
Before you go through any more groggy and crabby days, try these 12 ways to
improve nighttime sleep and avoid daytime sleepiness.
1. Get adequate nighttime sleep.
That may sound obvious, but many of us succumb to shaving an hour
or two off our sleep time in the morning or at night to do other things. Most
adults need seven to nine hours a night, and teenagers usually need a full nine
hours. Block out eight or nine hours for sleep every night.
2. Keep distractions out of bed.
“Reserve your bed for sleep and sex,” says Avelino Verceles, MD,
assistant professor at the University of Maryland School of Medicine and
director of the school’s sleep medicine fellowship. “You shouldn’t read, watch
TV, play video games, or use laptop computers in bed.” Don’t do your bills or
have heated discussions in bed either. They may leave you sleepless.
3. Set a consistent wake-up time.
People who have problem sleepiness are often advised to go to bed
and get up at the same time every day, including on weekends. But randomly
setting an ideal bedtime can lead to more frustration if you suffer from
insomnia and already have trouble falling asleep, says Barry Krakow, MD,
medical director of Maimonides Sleep Arts and Sciences Ltd. in Albuquerque,
N.M., and author ofSound
Sleep, Sound Mind: 7 Keys to Sleeping Through the Night.
Instead, Krakow suggests starting out by setting a wake-up time
only. “Stick by that for the first few weeks or even months to establish a
rhythm,” he says. “That process of always getting up at the same time helps to
anchor the circadian rhythm. And if you do that and have a bad night, you’ll
also to be sleepier the next bedtime.”
4. Gradually move to an earlier bedtime.
Another approach to getting into a consistent schedule is to try
going to bed 15 minutes earlier each night for four nights. Then stick with the
last bedtime. Gradually adjusting your schedule like this usually works better
than suddenly trying to go to sleep an hour earlier.
5. Set consistent, healthy mealtimes.
Regular mealtimes, not just regular sleep times, help regulate our
circadian rhythms. Eating a healthy breakfast and lunch on time -- rather than
grabbing a doughnut and coffee in the morning or a late sandwich on the run --
also prevents energy deficits during the day that will aggravate your
sleepiness. Plan to finish eating meals two to three hours before bedtime.
6. Exercise.
Regular exercise (30 minutes a day on most days) offers multiple
benefits for sleep. Exercise, especially aerobic exercise, generally makes it
easier to fall asleep and sleep more soundly.
Exercise
also gives you more daytime energy and keeps your thinking sharp. And if you
exercise outside in daylight, you get still more benefits. Sleep experts
recommend 30 minutes of exposure to sunlight a day because daylight helps
regulate our sleep patterns.
7. De-clutter your schedule.
“If you don’t think you can allow seven or eight hours for sleep,
then you need to look at your schedule and make some adjustments,” says
Verceles. “Move some activities from nighttime to early evening or from early
to late morning.” Try to eliminate tasks that aren’t really important. Getting
enough sleep at night will help you function better during your remaining
activities.
8. Don’t go to bed until you’re sleepy.
If you go to bed when you’re just tired, you probably won’t be
able to fall asleep, Krakow says. “Distinguish between the feeling of
sleepiness and being tired. Get into bed when you’re sleepy -- eyes droopy,
you’re drowsy, you feel like you’re nodding off. It’s a very different kind of
feeling.”
9. Don’t nap late in the day.
Late afternoon napping can make daytime sleepiness worse if
because it can interfere with nighttime sleep.
10. Create a relaxing bedtime ritual.
A relaxation routine before bedtime can help you separate from the
day -- especially from activities that are over-stimulating or stressful,
making it difficult to sleep. Try meditation, soaking in a hot bath, listening
to soothing music, or reading a book. A cup of herbal tea or warm milk can also
be soothing, but skip those if they cause you to wake at night to go to the
bathroom.
11. Avoid "nightcaps."
People often think that alcohol helps sleep, but it actually robs
you of deep sleep, which is essential for feeling well rested. When the effects
of alcohol wear off during the night, you’ll probably be wide awake again.
12. See a sleep specialist.
Daytime sleepiness can be caused by sleep disorders. If you are
excessively sleepy consistently during the day even when you sleep well or if
you fall asleep without warning during daily activities, you may have a sleep
disorder such as narcolepsy or sleep apnea, a breathing problem that occurs
during sleep. According to Krakow, undiagnosed and untreated sleep disorders
are probably the greatest cause of daytime fatigue and sleepiness.
Problem sleepiness can also be caused by certain illnesses and
medications. And mental conditions such as depression, posttraumatic stress
disorder, and anxiety are very commonly linked to sleep problems.
A sleep specialist can design a treatment program for you that
treats the underlying sleep disorder and helps you develop better sleep habits
and attitudes though cognitive behavioral therapy. Sometimes it takes a
combination of medication and behavioral therapy to eliminate daytime
sleepiness, but it can be done.
6 Marriage Mistakes Women Make
Avoiding these 6 things may make for a better marriage.
Attention, married
women: What you don't know aboutmarriagemay spell trouble.
For instance, if you
don't speak up for what you want, your husband is flying blind -- and not
likely to deliver. And the way you talk about your issues may be making matters
worse. And then there's the bedroom.
Getting married is
easy. Being married can be trickier. Here is some expert advice to avoid or
correct six common mistakes that can cost a marriage, or at the least, weaken
its foundations. Whether it's you or your spouse making these mistakes, taking
positive action can make a big difference.
Some wives are too
willing to give up on what they want,
Some women tend to be
"all about him" rather than all about themselves, as men tend to be, "Usually,
they're afraid it could make a fight or some unpleasantness, or they just think
somehow, on a subconscious level, in order to preserve the relationship, they
have to diminish what they themselves want," she says. The sense of
helplessness leads to anger that eventually boils over, she says.
Her solution? Express
your concerns rationally, whether about housework orparentingduties, or about not
getting enough time with your husband or for yourself. He may like golfing on
weekends while she may want him around for family time, for example. "If
she spoke up, they might be able to work out a better arrangement,"
Heitler says. "Maybe they'd switch to a softball league in the summer where
it would be a family event.''
2. Not Being Clear
About Expectations
Couples that function
the best in marriage have made their expectations clear from the outset about
division of labor, parenthood, and money, says family and marriage therapist But
many couples don't have those discussions and are operating on auto-pilot.
"Lots of couples operate on what they assume in their head because they
grew up that way, that if it works for them, it works for their partners.
Resentment can easily
build if expectations differ or are dashed on the rocks of hard reality. For
example, he says some women "thinkhaving a babywill change their
husband or bring him closer. What we know about marriage satisfaction is that
it takes a massive dip when the first child is born. If they knew that before
marriage ... it would help them navigate normal roadblocks and not freak out
when it happens."
3. Underestimating the Effect
of Tone of Voice
No matter who's speaking, man or
woman, tone of voice can be an issue if it's tinged only slightly with
negativity.
If you have concerns, Heitler
encourages "verbalizing them in a respectful way," rather than
speaking in a frustrated, irritated voice.
By all means, discuss what's
bothering you. But do it in a way that searches for solutions and alternatives,
rather than venting in a way that puts a peaceful solution further out of
reach.
4. Mismatched Communication Styles
If you feel you aren't being
heard by your husband, you may want to explore the ways you try to get through
to him.
Some women repeat their complaint
or a concern a few times in an effort to get their husband's attention. Some
men may call that nagging, but it may just be about having different
communication styles.
Karam calls it the
"demand-withdraw" dynamic: One person wants a conversation, but the
other hasn't figured out how to respond or appears to have shut down, so the
speaker presses further. "That's a vicious pattern," Karam
says.
If that happens in your relationship a lot, remember to pause to let your
spouse absorb what you're saying and have "a chance to validate what
they've heard," Karam says.
It might be useful to take a hard
look at what is fixed -- personality quirks, for example -- and what can be
changed. Citing the work of marriage/couples researcher John Gottman, Karam
says nearly 70% of marital problems are "perpetual," meaning that
these are issues that drag on.
The challenge is to recognize
what can't be corrected. It helps to "move toward acceptance," Karam
says. "You're not going to change a cautious person into a risk-taker or
an introvert into an extrovert.''
5. Not Making Sex a Priority
Whether it'sfatigueor some other reason, many women don't make
enough time for sex. That's a serious mistake, say Heitler and Karam.
"The reality is, what is
best for everybody -- for them, their spouse -- is a healthy sex life,"
says Heitler. "It keeps the family a happy family. And what their kids
need more than anything is parents who have a strong, positive bond.''
Karam says women need to build in
time -- and by extension, desire -- to make love with their husbands.
"They can't just drop everything and have sex with their husband. It's a
product of spending alone time together, building anticipation throughout the
week," he says.
Feeling sexy is a good way to
start, and that means a woman must make herself a priority.
"Generally, if you're a
woman, you have to prioritize self-care. If you feel good about yourself,
you're probably going to feel sexual," Karam says
6. Forgetting to Cherish Their
Partner
Some women get so focused on
kids, work, and home that they forget to make the small gestures that go a
long way to solidifying their marriage.
"In healthyrelationships,
there are dollops of positivity, very frequently doled out," Heitler says.
"They can be smiles,eyecontact,
hugs or touching, verbal comments like 'I agree with that' or 'good point' or
even the word 'yes.' Listening, agreement, appreciation, affection -- those all
send out positive energy that envelop both people in sunshine."
Those gestures remind both
partners that they like each other, and friendship is at theheartof
successful marriages, Karam says. Married people often "operate on
out-of-date knowledge of self," he says, leading them away from true appreciation
of their partners.
"It's a myth that a good
marriage sustains itself," he says. "It's learning yourself, learning
your partner. What you are at 24 is not what you are at 34.''
Exercises for Better Sex
To "keep your sex life awesome," exercise physiologist Rich
Weil suggests these top five "sexercises." Though the following
exercises are geared toward men, they also work great for women who want a
boost to their sex life.
·Pushups.If you're going to
pick just one exercise to do, this is the one to go for, Weil says, "for
all the obvious reasons." If you can’t do basic training-quality pushups
at first, start with wall presses (essentially pushups done against the wall),
aiming for 3 sets of 12 to 15 repetitions. When you're ready, progress to knee
pushups on the floor, making sure to keep your back straight(squeeze your butt and suck in your gut) while you
slowly touch your nose to the ground. Once you're ready to kick it up a notch,
progress to traditional hand-and-toe pushups.
·Abdominals. Weil, director of the New York Obesity Research
Center Weight Loss Program at St. Luke's Roosevelt Hospital Center, says your
abs are a critical sex-boosting body area to work on. "After all," he
says, "you have to use your abdominal muscles during sex." Weil
suggests starting your ab workout with good old-fashioned crunches. Lie on your
back, hands supporting your neck, knees bent, and your feet on the floor. Then
bring your body up just enough to get your shoulders off the ground. Do 3 to 5
sets of 15 to 20 repetitions.
For additional ab oomph, Weil suggests men and women also do bridges. Lying on
your back, knees bent, feet on the floor, lift your hips up and down for 3 sets
of 15 reps. Men can also try pelvic tilts. Standing up or lying down,
straighten your lower back and pull your belly button in until your lower back
touches the wall or floor. Women can try Kegels. Contract your pelvic muscles
-- the ones you'd use to stop the flow of urine; squeeze the muscles tight for
3 seconds, then relax for 3 seconds. Do 10 to 15 repetitions three times a day.
·Deadlifts. This exercise will keep your back as strong as it
can be, Weil says, and give your legs and torso a workout too. Deadlifts, in
which you start in a neutral bent-over position and raise a weighted barbell or
dumbbells from the ground, are easy to do -- and easy to do wrong. So technique
is important to prevent injury. Get some pro tips online or at your gym
to be sure you're getting the most out of doing deadlifts.
·Torso side bends and twists. To get the most
from this exercise, as well as the next one, head to the gym. The effort is
worth it because torso side bends and twists will keep your upper body strong,
Weil says, and give you stamina. "Do them on the cable crossover machine
for maximum effect."
·Pushing or pulling exercise in the gym. Rows, flyes, and
lateral raises on the cable crossover machine will do a great job of enhancing
your performance in the bedroom, according to Weil. Remember to get a few quick
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If you want even more sizzle, exercise for 20 minutes right before sex
and, Weil promises, "you’ll never do better!"
If pushups, crunches, and deadlifts aren't
your idea of a sweaty good time, you've still got plenty of exercise options to
help keep things steamy.
Pick your pleasure. Rather walk, swim, or jog? How about Pilates
or yoga? Maybe you prefer biking or skiing? Great, because Paul Frediani,
fitness coach and co-author ofSex
Flex: The Way to Enhanced Intimacy and Pleasure, says barring any health
problems, cardiovascular exercise of any kind is a great way to stimulate your
sex life.
But you'll want to avoid the weekend warrior syndrome to get the
most bang for your exercise buck. Aim for a 30-minute workout five times a
week. Get your blood pumping regularly and the payoff is simple: endurance,
more strength to hold positions, and the flexibility to hold them in comfort.
Now that's sexy.
Bonus: Better Erections
You may already be sold on the benefits of exercise, but here's a
bonus at no extra charge. Exercise may help beat erectile dysfunction. One
study showed that, for men over 50, being physically active means a 30% lower
risk of erectile dysfunction as compared to men who are sedentary. Studies also
show a strong link between obesity and ED.
In addition, people who exercise often have a better body image
than people who don't. This can help them feel more sexually appealing.
"One study found that 80% of men and 60% of females who exercised two to
three times a week felt their sexual desirability was above average," Weil
says.
Want to have sex like you're 20 years younger? Weil cites a study
that showed swimmers in their 60s have sex lives comparable to people in their
40s. Other research found that, for men and women over 55, high levels of
sexual activity were associated with higher degrees of fitness when compared to
younger inactive people.
"Although there can be many factors to exercise and sexual
activity, what some studies suggest is that people who are fit and active have
more sex than sedentary people." The bottom line? "Being strong and
flexible with lots of endurance will put the spunk into sex for you and your
partner," Weil says.
And don't forget to develop the most important muscle of all.
"Sex begins with the muscle between the ears," says Frediani,
"not the muscles in your abs, arms, or thighs. If you feel healthy and
have a positive body image, you will have a better sex life."
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You hear all of the
time that the only thing that matters is ten fingers, ten toes, and healthy. I
can’t disagree that having a healthy baby is important, but fact is that most
people do have a preference for the gender of their baby; thousands search each
day for information on how to have a baby boy or girl – so you should not feel
bad that you have a preference either. I couldn’t swear to the accuracy of this
but there have been studies that claim something like 84% of people do have a
preference, which is why there are so many websites on how to have a boy or
girl baby.
These same type
studies have shown that most women would be trying for a girl and most men
would prefer a baby boy, for their first child at least, if they knew how to
choose the sex of your baby. This preference usually changes after a couple
already have children though. For instance couples that already have two boys
will usually want their next child to be a girl.
How Is The Sex Of Your Baby Determined
The sex of your
baby will be determined by chromosomes. Here is the way that it was explained
to me. All women’s eggs already contain an X chromosome (the female
chromosome), but it is the chromosome carried in the sperm that fertilizes the
egg, that will determine what the sex of your baby is. If the egg is fertilized
with sperm containing a Y chromosome then you are going to have a boy and if
the sperm contained an X chromosome that’s how to have a baby girl.
The way all of thenatural gender selection
techniqueswork is by attempting to give an advantage to the
desired type of sperm – thus making it more likely that you will succeed if
you’re trying for a baby girl or a little boy. I have not heard of any method
other than artificial insemination that can claim to be 100% effective though.
What Are The Gender Selection Techniques?
There are quite a
few different how to conceive a girl naturally techniques out there for
influencing whether or not you will have a girl or boy baby. There’s the ‘how
to conceive a girl Chinese Conception Calendar’, the ‘how to conceive a girl
Shettles Method’, the ‘O+12 Method’ and the ‘Whelan Method’, along with many
books on how to conceive a girl. These methods suggest all kinds of different
things that you can use to influence how to conceive a baby girl. Specific
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Myself, I can’t
tell you what works and what does not. I do know of someone that can help get
you on the right track though. Her name is Ashley Spencer and she has studied all
of the different methods for naturally influencing gender and lays claims to
having helped nearly 12,000 clients.
Do you want to
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fertility clinics and gender selection clinics in order to artificially
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Using 100% Natural Methods Some couples don’t like to admit that they favor
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Forty may be the new
30, but considering the misconceptions about women's sexuality and desirability
after a "certain age," you'd think 40 was the new 80! Whether you
blame advertising portrayals of what's "sexy" (Victoria's Secret
models, anyone?), or the fact that leading TV and movie roles turn more to the
matronly than the hot as actresses age, myths about a more mature women's
sexuality abound. "We silently believe that only young people have
sex," says Maureen McGrath, RN, a sex-health educator and radio host. But
that couldn't be further from the truth. Here, eight myths we're happy to
dispel for you.
Myth 1: You don't
need sex as you get older.
Truth: It's hard to
redefine what the need for sex is after you're done baby-making. And sure, you
won't die without sex; it's not food or water. But that doesn't mean you need
it any less than other things that bring joy, satisfaction and better emotional
and physical health. "Sex gets blood flowing, which brings nutrients to
all parts of your body and eliminates waste. Heart pumping, deep breathing—it's
all good for you," says Carmella Sebastian, MD, a women's wellness and
sexuality expert.
Myth 2: Those extra
pounds make you undesirable.
Truth: Repeat after
us: Enjoying sex isn't about how you look, but how you feel. "You can have
inner confidence at any weight," says McGrath. That said, if you're not
feeling your best, go for a brisk, 30-minute walk with your partner rather than
have another helping of pasta at dinner. And try to quash that inner monologue
that's telling you men don't find less-than-perfect bodies sexy. Ask any guy:
If the woman who shares his bed gets naked, he's not seeing a muffin top and
cellulite. He's seeing naked. If you're single now and worried that a new lover
won't find you desirable, forget that too. "Your lumps, bumps and wrinkles
mean nothing to 99% of men over 40," says Bobbi Palmer, founder and CEO of
Date Like a Grownup. "What you lack in firmness you more than make up in
humor, compassion and experience. Plus, you know your body better than you ever
did in your 20s." All those years living in your skin has taught you what
turns you on that you just didn't know two decades ago. And what's sexier to a
man than a woman who knows what she wants in bed?
Myth 3: Your body
isn't sexual once you enter perimenopause.
Truth: The changes
that occur in the (sometimes) years before menopause, such as irregular
periods, mood changes and lack of vaginal lubrication will affect your sex
life. But a changing body is still a sexual body, says Dr. Sebastian, and
recognizing that is important. Avoiding sexual activity may only worsen things.
Take dryness: Using a lubricant such as KY Jelly helps, but so does the act of
having sex: "When blood goes to the genitals, the tissues remain
healthy," encouraging natural lubrication. Hot flashes and fatigue
associated with perimenopause can wreak havoc on your energy levels, says
McGrath, so talk to your doctor about possible hormonal remedies. And look on
the bright side: This can be a time of experimentation and freedom with sex
that you didn't have when young kids were underfoot. "Introduce a
vibrator, experiment with self-stimulation, try new positions," suggests
McGrath.
Myth 4: You're too tired for
sex.
Truth: This one persists for good
reason—it makes sense that you'd be more worn-out now than you were 20 years
ago. But it's more likely that "I'm too tired" is an excuse to avoid
sex. Being chronically out of energy can trigger a sex drive dip, so ask your
doctor to check your thyroid levels and test you for anemia, says McGrath. And
look at your lifestyle: Maybe you need to pare down your commitments and get
better sleep by regulating your bedtime and removing un-sexy (and rest-interfering)
TVs and computers from your bedroom. Other than that, "don't wait to have
sex until the end of the day when you're exhausted," says Dr. Sebastian.
If you're a morning person, try a little wake-up nookie, or if possible, a bit
of afternoon delight.
Myth 5: You don't have to worry about birth control.
Truth: Tell that to the legion of
late-life moms toting their beloved "oops" babies! "It's hard to
know exactly when you'll stop ovulating, even if you're in the middle of
perimenopause," says Dr. Sebastian. "To check when you can skip
protection, your doctor can do a blood test." The level of follicle
stimulating hormone (FSH) in your blood can reveal whether you're still
fertile, but levels fluctuate during perimenopause, so even a low FSH level may
be misleading. That's why it's better to be safe than sorry. Menopause isn't
official until you've gone a full year without a period, says McGrath. In a new
relationship? You still have to protect against sexually transmitted diseases,
so use condoms until you're sure about your partner's past.
Myth 6: It's normal for sex drive to drop as you age.
Truth: Actually, it may be the
opposite. "It's more likely for younger women to experience dips in
libido," says McGrath, probably thanks to the hormonal upheavals of
pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and dealing with young children. So if you
have little or no desire for any kind of sex—even with George Clooney in your
fantasies—see your doctor to be sure you don't have a medical condition, such
as thyroid issues or certain cancers, says Dr. Sebastian. Beyond that, libido
has a lot to do with how easily you can talk to your partner, and how bothered
either of you is by how often you have sex. For one couple, once a month feels
fine, whereas for others three times a week is practically nothing.
"Figure out how much sex is enough before you decide you have a libido
problem," says McGrath.
Myth 7: Things that once turned you on no longer work because of
your age.
Truth: "This is more a fact
of a long relationship than aging," says McGrath. You might be bored or in
a rut (and so might your man), so address it as soon as possible, advises Dr.
Sebastian. Get a video, buy a book, shake things up. Have a whole range of
moves in your sexual arsenal because different things turn you on not just in
different stages of life but on different days!
Myth 8: If I've never had great
orgasms, it's too late now.
Truth: This is easy to debunk,
says Dr. Sebastian, who admits, "I was never multi-orgasmic until after I
had my second child." She attributes the change to a newfound sense of self-confidence,
an ability to start asking for what she wanted in bed. Are you stressed? Did
you have a fight with your spouse? Did you recently get a promotion at work and
are feeling good about yourself? These all can affect your ability to climax.
It's never too late to explore what turns you on, says McGrath. "People
think they're born knowing how to be a great lover, but it has to be learned.
