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What Is a Sexual Fetish?
Health & Sex
What Is a Sexual Fetish?
While you might like the sight of
your partner in a pair of high heels during sex, that doesn’t necessarily mean
you have a shoe fetish.
A fetish is sexual excitement in
response to an object or body part that’s not typically sexual, such as shoes
or feet. They’re more common in men.
Many people with fetishes must have
the object of their attraction at hand or be fantasizing about it, alone or
with a partner, in order to become sexually aroused, get an erection, and have
an orgasm.
A person with a fetish might
masturbate while they hold, smell, rub, or taste the object. Or they might ask
their partner to wear it or use it during sex.
People can “fetishize” almost
anything.
There are many web sites about lots
of fetish interests,. “Anything you could imagine.”
According to a study, the most common
fetishes involve body parts, such as feet, or body features, such as obesity, piercings, or tattoos. The feet are
by far the most common. Body fluid, body size, and hair fetishes aren’t far
behind.
After body parts comes things you
wear. The same study put clothes worn on the hips and legs, such as stockings
and skirts, at the top of the list. Footwear, then underwear, ranked closely
behind.
Fetishes that involve the feel of a
certain material, often leather or rubber, are also common. Some people like
dressing themselves and their partner in furry animal costumes.
Sexual behavior experts don't agree
on the causes. Some people can trace their attraction back to early childhood,
before they were aware of their sexuality.
A fetish can also come from seeing
inappropriate sexual behavior during childhood or from sexual abuse, says
Kenneth Rosenberg, MD. He's a psychiatry professor at Weill Cornell Medical
College.
A sexual fetish is
not a disorder by definition, but it can reach that level if it causes intense,
lasting distress.
What Is a Sexual Fetish?
Are Fetishes OK?
“Whether somebody
is doing this by themselves or with a partner, if they’re happy with it, then
it’s not an issue," Krueger says, as long as it causes pleasure and no one
is being forced to take part.
“My patients come
to me because they feel it’s a problem,” Rosenberg says. “Their behaviors are
not interesting, fun, or even sexy. They are not simply experimenting with
novel means of sexual expression. They are desperate, compulsive, and sometimes
so distressed by their behaviors that suicide is
a consideration.”
When it's a
disorder, it feels out of control. Someone might disappear from work or home to
practice their fetish in secret. This fascination could also keep them from
doing their job.
“A physician could
have a foot fetish, for example, and spend a large amount of time and attention
on his patients’ feet,” Krueger says.
People with these
disorders might also steal to get the object of their desire. Often, they can’t
have meaningful sexual
relationships with other people. They might prefer to have time
alone with their object, even when they're in a relationship with another
person.
“If your partner
said, ‘Wear a pair of sexy shoes tonight,' you’d probably say, ‘Why not?’ But
if your partner said, ‘You can sleep in the other room, just leave me your
shoes,’ that would be a problem,” Rosenberg says.
Standard treatment
includes medication and talk therapy with
apsychiatrist or
counselor.
Still, some
fetishes can be harmless. A recent study on “adult baby/diaper lovers” found
that among nearly 1,800 men and 140 women who report having this fetish, most
said they were "comfortable" with their fetish and that it wasn't a
problem.
The same can be
said of people who enjoy bondage, discipline or domination, sadism, and
masochism, commonly known as “BDSM,” Rosenberg says. As long as everyone
agrees, then chances are “no one’s getting hurt in a way that is extreme or
permanent, and everyone’s happy with what’s happening.”
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Sunday, 13 July 2014
10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex
10 Surprising Health
Benefits of Sex
The perks of sex extend well beyond the bedroom.
Sex not only feels good. It can also be good for you. Here’s
what a healthy sex life can do for you.
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1. Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
“Sexually active people take fewer sick days,”.
People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your
body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes
University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or
twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students
who had sex less often.
You should still do all the other things that make your
immune system happy, such as:
Eat right.
Stay active.
Get enough sleep.
Keep up with your vaccinations.
Use a condom if you don’t know both of your STD statuses.
2. Boosts Your Libido
Longing for a more lively sex life? “Having sex will make
sex better and will improve your libido,”..
For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow,
and elasticity, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of
it.
3. Improves Women's Bladder Control
A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding
incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of women at some point in
their lives.
Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles.
When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens
them.
4. Lowers Your Blood Pressure
Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood
pressure,
“There have been many studies,” he says. “One landmark study
found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic
blood pressure.” That's the first number on your blood pressure test.
5. Counts as Exercise
“Sex is a really great form of exercise,”. It won’t replace
the treadmill, but it counts for something.
Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories
than watching TV. It gives you a one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and
uses various muscles.
So get busy! You may even want to clear your schedule to
make time for it on a regular basis.
“Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits,”
6. Lowers Heart Attack Risk
A good sex life is good for your heart. Besides being a
great way to raise your heart rate, sex helps keep your estrogen and
testosterone levels in balance.
“When either one of those is low you begin to get lots of
problems, like osteoporosis and even heart disease,”.
Having sex more often may help. During one study, men who
had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as
men who had sex rarely.
7. Lessens Pain
Before you reach for an aspirin, try for an orgasm.
“Orgasm can block pain,”. It releases a hormone that helps
raise your pain threshold.Stimulation without orgasm can also do the trick.
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8. May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
Going for the gusto may help ward off prostate cancer.
Men who ejaculated frequently (at least 21 times a month)
were less likely to get prostate cancer during one study, which was published
in the Journal of the American Medical Association.
You don’t need a partner to reap this benefit: Sexual
intercourse, nocturnal emission, and masturbation were all part of the
equation.
It's not clear that sex was the only reason that mattered in
that study. Lots of factors affect cancer risk. But more sex won’t hurt.
9. Improves Sleep
You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason.“After
orgasm, the hormone prolactin is released, which is responsible for the
feelings of relaxation and sleepiness" after sex.
10. Eases Stress
Being close to your partner can soothe stress and anxiety.
Touching and hugging can release your body's natural
“feel-good hormone.” Sexual arousal releases a brain chemical that revs up your
brain’s pleasure and reward system.
Sex and intimacy can boost your self-esteem and happiness,
too. It’s not only a prescription for a healthy life, but a happy one.
Thursday, 27 March 2014
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Relationship
Rocky road?
Get your love life back on track.
It's the
rare couple that doesn't run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize
ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you'll have a
much better chance of getting past them.
Even though
every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how
to manage the bumps and keep their love life going, says marriage and family
therapist Mitch Temple, author of The Marriage Turnaround. They hang in there,
tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday
life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars,
going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial
and error.
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Relationship Problem: Communication
All
relationship problems stem from poor communication, according to Elaine Fantle
Shimberg, author of Blending Families. "You can't communicate while you're
checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports
section," she says.
Make an
actual appointment with each other, Shimberg says. If you live together, put
the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your
calls.
If you can't
"communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like
the library, park, or restaurant where you'd be embarrassed if anyone saw you
screaming.
Set up some rules.
Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases
such as "You always ..." or "You never ...."
Use body
language to show you're listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at
your nails. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and
rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is
that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both
working." If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person
really meant was, "Hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by
having to pick up after you," he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.
Relationship Problem: Sex
Even
partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually. Mary Jo Fay, author
of Please Dear, Not Tonight, says a lack of sexual self-awareness and education
worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should
give up, Fay says. "Sex," she says, "brings us closer together,
releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps
the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy."
Plan, plan,
plan. Fay suggests making an appointment,
but not necessarily at night when everyone is tired. Maybe during the
baby's Saturday afternoon nap or a "before-work quickie." Ask friends
or family to take the kids every other Friday night for a sleepover. "When
sex is on the calendar, it increases your anticipation," Fay says.
Changing things up a bit can make sex more fun, too, she says. Why not have sex
in the kitchen? Or by the fire? Or standing up in the hallway?
Learn what
truly turns you and your partner on by each of you coming up with a personal
"Sexy List," suggests California psychotherapist Allison Cohen. Swap
the lists and use them to create more scenarios that turn you both on.
If your
sexual relationship problems can't be resolved on your own, Fay recommends
consulting a qualified sex therapist to help you both address and resolve your
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Relationship Problem:
Money
Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are
exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from
the high cost of a wedding. The National Foundation for Credit Counseling
(NFCC) recommends that couples who have money woes take a deep breath and have
a serious conversation about finances.
Be honest about your current financial situation. If things
have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.
Don't approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead,
set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.
Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a
spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each
other's tendencies.
Don't hide income or debt. Bring financial documents,
including a recent credit report, pay stubs, bank statements, insurance
policies, debts, and investments to the table.
Don't blame.
Construct a joint budget that includes savings.
Decide which person will be responsible for paying the
monthly bills.
Allow each person to have independence by setting aside
money to be spent at his or her discretion.
Decide upon short-term and long-term goals. It's OK to have
individual goals, but you should have family goals, too.
Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to
appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed.
Relationship Problem:
Struggles Over Home Chores
Most partners work outside the home and often at more than
one job. So it's important to fairly divide the labor at home, says Paulette
Kouffman-Sherman, author of Dating From the Inside Out.
Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the
home, Kouffman-Sherman says. "Write all the jobs down and agree on who
does what." Be fair so no resentment builds.
Be open to other solutions, she says. If you both hate
housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes
housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative
and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you.
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Relationship Problem:
Not Making Your Relationship a Priority
If you want to keep your love life going, making your
relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do."
"Relationships lose their luster. So make yours a priority," says
Karen Sherman, author of Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last.
Do the things you used to do when you were first dating:
Show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day,
and show interest in each other.
Plan date nights. Schedule time together on the calendar
just as you would any other important event in your life.
Respect one another. Say "thank you," and "I
appreciate..." It lets your partner know that they matter.
Occasional conflict is a part of life, according to New
York-based psychologist Susan Silverman. But if you and your partner feel like
you're starring in your own nightmare version of the movie Groundhog Day --
i.e. the same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to
break free of this toxic routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the
anger and take a calm look at underlying issues.
You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil,
helpful manner, Silverman says. Make these strategies part of who you are in
this relationship.
Realize you are not a victim. It is your choice whether you
react and how you react.
Be honest with yourself. When you're in the midst of an
argument, are your comments geared toward resolving the conflict, or are you
looking for payback? If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it's best to
take a deep breath and change your strategy.
Change it up. If you continue to respond in the way that's
brought you pain and unhappiness in the past, you can't expect a different
result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference. If you
usually jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished
speaking, hold off for a few moments. You'll be surprised at how such a small
shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument.
Give a little; get a lot. Apologize when you're wrong. Sure
it's tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful happen.
"You can't control anyone else's behavior,"
Silverman says. "The only one in your charge is you."
Relationship Problem:
Trust
Trust is a key part of a relationship. Do you see certain
things that cause you not to trust your partner? Or do you have unresolved
issues that prevent you from trusting others?
You and your partner can develop trust in each other by
following these tips, Fay says.
Be consistent.
Be on time.
Do what you say you will do.
Don't lie -- not even little white lies to your partner or
to others.
Be fair, even in an argument.
Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree,
but don't discount how your partner is feeling.
Call when you say you will.
Call to say you'll be home late.
Carry your fair share of the workload.
Don't overreact when things go wrong.
Never say things you can't take back.
Don't dig up old wounds.
Respect your partner's boundaries.
Don’t be jealous.
Be a good listener.
Even though there are always going to be problems in a
relationship, Sherman says you both can do things to minimize marriage
problems, if not avoid them altogether.
First, be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your
needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a
Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly," she says
Next, use humor -- learn to let things go and enjoy one
another more.
Finally, be willing to work on your relationship and to
truly look at what needs to be done. Don't think that things would be better
with someone else. Unless you address problems, the same lack of skills that
get in the way now will still be there and still cause problems no matter what
relationship you're in
Saturday, 22 February 2014
10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex
10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex
The perks of sex extend well beyond the bedroom.
1. Helps Keep Your
Immune System Humming
“Sexually active
people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health
expert.
People who have sex
have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other
intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college
students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain
antibody compared to students who had sex less often.
You should still do
all the other things that make your immune system happy, such as:
·
Eat right.
·
Stay active.
·
Get enough sleep.
·
Keep up with your vaccinations.
·
Use a condom if you don’t know both of your STD statuses.
2. Boosts Your
Libido
Longing for a more
lively sex life? “Having sex will make sex better and will improve your
libido,” says Lauren Streicher, MD. She is an assistant clinical professor of
obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of
Medicine in Chicago.
For women, having sex
ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which
make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.
3. Improves Women's
Bladder Control
A strong pelvic floor
is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of
women at some point in their lives.
Good sex is like a
workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes
contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.
4. Lowers Your
Blood Pressure
Research suggests a
link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. He is
CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness.
“There have been many
studies,” he says. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse
specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That's the
first number on your blood pressure test.
5. Counts as
Exercise
“Sex is a really
great form of exercise,” Pinzone says. It won’t replace the treadmill, but it
counts for something.
Sex uses about five
calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a
one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and uses various muscles.
So get busy! You may
even want to clear your schedule to make time for it on a regular basis.
“Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits,” Pinzone
says.
6. Lowers Heart
Attack Risk
A good sex life is
good for your heart. Besides being a great way to raise your heart rate, sex
helps keep your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance.
“When either one of
those is low you begin to get lots of problems, like osteoporosis and even
heart disease,” Pinzone says.
Having sex more often
may help. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as
likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rarely
7. Lessens Pain
Before you reach for an aspirin, try
for an orgasm.
“Orgasm can block pain,” says
Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, a distinguished service professor at Rutgers, the
State University of New Jersey. It releases a hormone that helps raise your
pain threshold.
Stimulation without orgasm can
also do the trick. “We’ve found that vaginal stimulation can block chronic back
and leg pain, and many women have told us that genital self-stimulation can
reduce menstrual cramps, arthritic pain, and in some cases even headache,”
Komisaruk says.
8. May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
Going for the gusto may help ward
off prostate cancer.
Men who ejaculated frequently (at
least 21 times a month) were less likely to get prostate cancer during one
study, which was published in the Journal
of the American Medical Association.
You don’t need a partner to reap
this benefit: Sexual intercourse, nocturnal emission, and masturbation were all
part of the equation.
It's not clear that sex was the only reason that mattered in that study. Lots
of factors affect cancer risk. But more sex won’t hurt.
9. Improves Sleep
You may nod off more quickly
after sex, and for good reason.
“After orgasm, the hormone
prolactin is released, which is responsible for the feelings of relaxation and
sleepiness" after sex, says Sheenie Ambardar, MD. She is a psychiatrist in
West Hollywood, Calif.
10. Eases Stress
Being close to your partner can
soothe stress and anxiety.
Ambardar says touching and
hugging can release your body's natural “feel-good hormone.” Sexual arousal
releases a brain chemical that revs up your brain’s pleasure and reward system.
Sex and intimacy can boost your
self-esteem and happiness, too, Ambardar says. It’s not only a prescription for
a healthy life, but a happy one.
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Sunday, 16 February 2014
How to Rekindle the Spark in Your Relationship
How to Rekindle the Spark in Your Relationship
Focus on the positive.
Remember those fabulous qualities
you noticed in your partner when you started dating? Time and stress may have
brought their less-favorable traits into sharper focus, says psychologist
Elizabeth R. Lombardo, PhD. But their good qualities are probably still there.
Fixating on the negatives
wouldn't have worked in the beginning and it doesn't work now. "In
marriage, it's easy to freeze your partner into a fixed perception. Get out of
that," says Sherrie Campbell, PhD. She is a marriage and family therapist
in Yorba Linda, Calif.
Make a list of what you fell in
love with and another list of good things you've discovered over time.
"Publicly brag about those amazing qualities your partner has,"
Campbell says. "Refrain from making him the brunt of a joke. Embrace his
positive qualities and let him know you've fully got his back."
Do something crazy (or new).
One study found that couples who
did novel and arousing things together felt better about their relationships
than those who stuck with routine, mundane activities.
"It's amazing what getting
out of your normal routine and pushing your comfort boundaries will do for your
love life," says Sheri Meyers, PsyD. She's the author ofChatting or
Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship.
The trick is to pick something fun and exciting, not just pleasant. Ride a
roller coaster. Visit a far-flung destination.
Another option is to get
competitive, suggests Rachel DeAlto, a communication and relationship expert in
Point Pleasant, N.J.
"When you're physically
competing and experiencing new things together, those dopamine levels soar,
which replicates those early butterflies and gets you excited," she
says. Try one-on-one activities like tennis, racquetball, skiing, hiking, or
fishing.
Touch.
"So many couples hold back
kissing, touching, or holding each other until they have time or the desire to
have sex," says Meyers. But that's a mistake. Researchers have found that
affectionate touch boosts the body's feel-good hormones.
Hug your partner. Hold hands. Be
playful with touch.
"Whisper sweet and adoring
things into your partner's ear. Brush against him in a sexually seductive
way," says Meyers. "Affection is a way to make love all day outside
of the bedroom."
Having fun during sex, instead of
doing it for obligation's sake, can stoke the fires of your relationship.
"Sex is the playground of a marriage," says Campbell. "Fun
doesn't have to mean you have to engage in sexual acrobatics; it just means
have fun."
Do you spend a lot of time
trying read your partner’s mind? Limit the guess-work by being open and honest;
it can bring you closer. "Ask your partner what he or she needs from you.
Take turns. The goal is to show more and see more of each other, rather than
defend the status quo," says Meyers. The rewards run deep. Great
conversation often leads to more open, loving sex, she says.
Every discussion doesn't have to
be serious. Lighthearted laughter goes a long way in lifting your spirits and
reconnecting. Have fun. Crack a joke. Revel in the humor of a situation
together. "There is nothing sexier than a smile and a happy partner,"
says Campbell.
Focus on you.
What fuels your passion? Maybe
it's having an exciting career or training for a half marathon. No matter --
just get out and do it. When you love yourself and your life, you bring more
energy and interest into your relationship.
"Independence and a sense of
purpose are sexy," explains Campbell. When you take care of your own needs
and pursue what you're passionate about, you become less predictable and more
interesting to your partner.
It's a win-win situation. You'll
be more confident and peaceful as you keep evolving, and your relationship will
thrive.
Use your history.
Remember those things you did
when you were romancing your new love? Make a list and do them again now,
suggests Paul N. Weinberg. He is the co-author of The I Factor: Simple Insights for
Connecting in Your Personal Relationships. "It could be as simple as a
way you kissed your partner on the cheek or as elaborate as the effort you put
into a special date."
Identify your relationship's strengths, then build on them, say Les Parrott,
III, PhD, and Leslie Parrott, EdD, husband-and-wife founders of the Center for
Relationship Development in Seattle. Know what works well in your relationship
and do more of it.
Finally, dream big. Envision a
future together than inspires you. Maybe it's a home bustling with a big family
or vacations to new, exotic places. Whatever your dream, you can create a plan
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Thursday, 13 February 2014
Sex Is Important to Many Midlife Women
Sex Is Important to Many Midlife
Women
Study finds some challenges with sexual function that can be remedied
The mechanics of sex
may become a bit more difficult after menopause, a new study finds. But most
women will continue to be sexually active as long as they feel sex is
important.
The study, published
online Feb. 10 in JAMA Internal Medicine, included 354 women
who ranged in age from their 40s to mid-60s. All of the women reported being
sexually active at the start of the study.
Each year for four
years, researchers queried the women about their menopausal status and physical
health. In the fourth year, women were specifically asked about their sexual
function -- how strong their sex drive was, how easy or difficult it was to
reach orgasm, and whether they had any trouble with arousal or vaginal dryness, or felt pain during intercourse.
After another four
years, about 85 percent of the women continued to be sexually active. Women who
stayed sexually active were more likely to be white, to have a lower body mass
index (be thinner) and to say they felt sex was important.
"Women who felt
that sex was highly important were about three times as likely to continue
having sex as women who thought it was a little or not important," said
study author Dr. Holly Thomas, a general internal medicine fellow at the
University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine.
The good news is
"if you go into midlife still sexually active, chances are, you're going
to continue to be sexually active," Thomas said.
What caught the
researchers off guard was that most women also scored poorly on the test of
sexual function, meaning they reported significant physical difficulties with
sex.
Thomas said that
could mean a couple of things. The first is that the test, which was designed
for premenopausal women, doesn't accurately reflect sexual intimacyat midlife. She thinks that after menopause,
women may place a higher priority on kissing and touching than on intercourse,
and the test they used in the study didn't really capture that.
She said the other
thing it could mean is that women are using sexual aids, like lubricants, to
overcome some of the trouble they have.
One expert on
menopause was not surprised by the new findings.
"I think it
resonates with what many of us have thought all along," said Dr. Margery
Gass, an obstetrician/gynecologist at the Cleveland Clinic, in Ohio. She was
not involved in the study.
"The quality of
sexual activity for women as they age is much more than the sum of the various
physical function components," said Gass, who is also executive director
of the North American Menopause Society.
"That's not to say that there aren't some
women who aren't having a very difficult time, but there are things that can be
done for that," she said
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